How to Love: God Way

March 24th, 2009

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Jesus offers us a simple instruction to love.

The Lion and the Lamb

The Lion and the Lamb

Jesus’s first greatest commandment was

“You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.”

Jesus’s second greatest commandment was

“Love your neighbor as yourself.”

This was Jesus’s instruction on love. The three things: Love God, Love yourself, and Love others.

This is a simple instruction yet challenging.  We often are struggling to love others. In our life, we may be hurt by others. How can we love those who hurt us? It is tough to love our enemies.

Love for God

God have purpose for us. We suffered to learn and to grow. God tests and challenge us to continue love Him. It is a way God shapes us to become a better person. It is just like a hammer and chisel being blow. Each blow, it hurts. But, in the end, you become beautiful.

How can we love God?

We can love God by pray, reading Bible, teach other people about God, and to meet Jesus through Sacrament: Baptism, reconciliation, Confirmation, Communion, Matrimony or Holy Order, and anointing of sickness. We must partake in reconciliation and Eucharist often as we can.

Love Ourselves

We must love ourselves first. How can we love other if we don’t love ourselves?

For example, if we can’t ride a bicycle. Can we teach other to ride a bicycle? No. First, we need to learn how to ride bicycle and then we can teach others. We are experienced and we understand what it is like to ride a bicycle. Through our teaching, we can coach better and be more emphatic.

How can we love ourselves?

We must take good care of ourselves. We need to exercise and eat well since our body is the temple of our soul. We need to study and find good educational stimulation for our brain. We must work on accept who we are. We have our own strengths and weaknesses. Understand ourselves will liberate from our burden of society’s norm. Learn to overcome our shortcoming and find the strength in life. This is how we can love ourselves.

Reconciliation is often a first step. God’s forgiveness will remove our burden and bless with his grace. God know we are sinners and we are not perfect. He will always forgive us and give us a renewed life again and again. We must face God that we are sorry for our mistakes and step up to do better with our life.

To love ourselves, we can find goods in others despite their flaws. If we don’t love ourselves and then we will continue to see the problems. Love ourselves change our conscience and perception. This put a better filter in our conscience.

Love Others

To love others, we create a peace on Earth.  When we love each other and it become like a Heaven on Earth. Can you imagine how if everybody learn to love each other. What will our Earth be like? Maybe no war and we become the most productive human being. There maybe will be no thousands page to dictate on how we should live. Our only law is to love other.

Love others reinforce us to find greatness in other. It is not matter of liking others but to serve, to help, to develop, and to cultivate. By love others, we extend our kindness, support, and peace.

How can we love others?

Find time to visit your loved one or someone who is in need such as nurse’s home or prison. Extend your expertise to others who may benefit. Doing uncommon kindness such as phoning your long lost friends and reconnect with them. Make a time to find out name of your building custodial and striking a small talk with him from time to time.  There are countless way to love others. The basic way to love is through emphatic listening, offering assistance, and concerned thoughts.

Live up Jesus’s eight beatitudes are a good place to start. The Jesus’s eight beatitudes when he gave a sermon on the Mt. Sinai are:

  • Blessed are the poor in spirit,
    for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
  • Blessed are they who mourn,
    for they shall be comforted.
  • Blessed are the meek,
    for they shall inherit the earth.
  • Blessed are they who hunger and thirst for righteousness,
    for they shall be satisfied.
  • Blessed are the merciful,
    for they shall obtain mercy.
  • Blessed are the pure of heart,
    for they shall see God.
  • Blessed are the peacemakers,
    for they shall be called children of God.
  • Blessed are they who are persecuted for the sake of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.”

Gospel of St. Matthew 5:3-10

From the Book of Mark

“Of all the commandments, which is the most important?” “The most important one,” answered Jesus, “is this: ‘Hear, O Israel, the Lord our God, the Lord is one. Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.” (Mark 12:28-31)

Jesus never said we must love God or love people.  Jesus said we must love God and Love people.

We will appreciate the deep love when we continue to love God with our entire mind as we would love others and ourselves. We will begin to live a better life in mind, physical, and spirit.

If we practice the 3 ways to love interconnected, we will create a heaven on Earth.

Once again, to love as Jesus’s greatest commandments have showed us that we must love God with our entire mind and love others as ourselves.

The instruction is simple. To love are challenge. We often struggle to understand why God is doing this to us? We have hard time to love those people who did terrible things. Sometime we have difficult time accept who we are. It is tough to love. But, God has promise that we will experience joy and gracious when we love fully. When we love fully, we become better, happy, healthy, and productive.

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My Precious Parents, Tom and Sharon Vieira!

December 21st, 2008

This Sunday, the December 21, 2008; my parents will mark their 40th anniversary.  I am so blessed to have parents in my life.

Dad and Mom at their niece's wedding

Mom and Dad

Let me pull the message I wrote about my parents from my Facebook profile:

My parents, Thomas Vieira and Sharon Vieira.

They are the architect of my life. They gave me the strong foundation that I can enable my journey in exploring the life.

They are amazing people. They beat the almost impossible odds. My dad and mom survived the hardship of life. The bag of hardship were homeless, growing up being unappreciated with lack of love, facing the horrible forms of abuse, and have almost no guide in life.

They married when my dad was 17 and my mom was 18. One of their first commitment is that their children will not live their old lifestyle.

Today, my sisters and I are the outcome of their success. We all three graduated from college. It were my parents’ iron-clad goal that we will graduate from college and to live a good life with all their support no matter what.

My parents of 40 years in marriage has served as my role model in building a loving relationship and the driven character of being success in life.

They are always persistent in hope, faith and love.

My parents, Thomas and Sharon, the mast of my life.

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Technorati Profile

December 19th, 2008

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Is this our America?

July 24th, 2008

I am now read a book by Rod Dreher, “Crunchy Cons”.  It is a controversy takes on the conservatives that now is becoming a countercultural to the mainstreamed conservatives and liberals. 

On the front cover, the block text go on,

How Birkenstocked Burkeans, gun-loving organic gardeners, evangelical free-range farmers, hip homeschooling mamas, right-wing nature lovers, and their diverse tribe of countercultural conservatives plan to save America (or at least the Republican Party)

This is such contrasting statement how Dreher describe the conservatives. Birkenstock? Organic?

Dreher’s chapter on Consumerism, he tells his experience meeting Wade Davis, the Harvard anthropologist, who studies the vanishing indigenous cultures around the world. 

The conservation between Dreher and Davis after the lecture which I find it interesting…

We say we believe in marriage, but half our marriages end in divorce. We say we love our children, but look how we let them live.  We say we believe in the family, but you don’t see it in the way we behave.  You can say a lot of things about Americans, but ‘they’re happy’ is not one of them.

The thread of a conservation between Davis and Dreher made me thinks how we hold on our beliefs yet our actions don’t reflect what it aligned with the belief.

The solution American’s misguided dream maybe is to make a committment and live what we intended to live our life.   
 

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Extraordinary Way of Learning

June 25th, 2008

Flickr: Rachel Sian

The able to learn is a critical skills that enable us to enjoy life and to become a better person everyday is to be lifelong learner.  Lifelong learner is a person who strives for knowledge.  The lifelong learner will seek different way to learn because they are thirst.  It may be a book that quenches their thirst.  Maybe they enjoy the intellectual environment at the local college lecture series. 

Each lifelong learner has their reason of continuing learn.  It may be to enhance their professional and personal life.  It may be to gain their self-esteem.  There are several reasons. 

Lifelong learner holds the same goal, to be a better person through learning.  When you learn something new, you are cultivating yourself to a better person by gain a new skills, knowledge, and better understanding of how our world runs. 

Please do Google “lifelong learner” and there will be many and many tips of what path can we take to become a wonderful lifelong learner.  I just want to share an extraordinary way to learn.


The unique way to learn is to become a teacher.  When you become a teacher, you become a student of your students.  Yes, this seems funny but being in a direct contact with your students who come from different walks of life brings something special to share.  It is always something new.  You must be a different kind of teacher to experience this.  It is a teacher who listens and share with the students. 

Sad, many of teachers enter this picture as a superior.  I am right and you are wrong.  I know everything.  With this mindset, it hinders the able to listens and learns.  When come with this approaching, the students will find you intimidating and the students end up holding all their cards because they are scared.   With a tender heart but a firm mind, the students will respect you.  With the mutual respect, the students open and you will learn about who they are and get to see what is in their soul.  You will start to see what the students want and needs.  This is the moment where you become the best teacher because you are out on a mission to fulfill their needs and to guide them to a great life.    

It is not necessary to be a teacher in a formal education setting.  It can be providing a workshop, one-on-one session, or give a presentation.  You may do this out of your request.  Or you get asked to do this gig.  It is an honor because you are recognized as an authority figure or someone who is an expert. 

As a responsible teacher, I want to make sure that my students get the best education.  I will go over the materials and also to study the segmentation of my students.  Ironically, I learn more because I research like a madman although I am expert in this subject.  I get in touch with the students.  I look at the demographic to identify the needs and to prepare accurately.  I learn about their lifestyle, the culture, and the background.  I thought I know but I was wrong.  I learn more than ever.

Through the session, I get the opportunity to meet the wonderful people.  Each conversation we held, there is always something new.  It may be the knowledge they add to the topic.  It may be a story of their life which embodies the spirit of their life that they open and share.  It can be personal stories, their culture, or even new discover.  It is surreal that you deepening you knowledge because you and the students are exchanging on personal level.  You get the first-hand experience that the textbooks can’t provide.

For example, you spent 3 years studying Spanish.  You are off to a vacation to Spanish.  You realized that the 3 years of studying Spanish does not help you to engage in a fully conversation with the Spaniards.  Suddenly, you spot a hot Spanish hunk and you spent the week with that babe.  You learn so much Spanish, their culture, food, and their way of life in just 1 week than you learn in your 3 years of Spanish class.  This is the power of teacher-student relationship practice the giving and receiving relationship.   

I have done these opportunities as paying and volunteer jobs.  In my opinion, volunteer to teach is a humble experience.  You give up the time of able to earn money to prepare world class teaching material for your students.  You go out and deliver your best pitch.  With this volunteer mentality, it become all about giving with no incentive.  The projection is different because it comes out of your heart.  In this midst, you are committed to see the students benefit something in the end.  In the end, the feeling is exhilarating because it is pure action out of heart with no expectation in return.  The interaction with students is amazing. 

This does not make the paying job experience any less.  Doing this as a paying job is great learning experience.  The mentality is different because it is a job.  You will experience a great moment if doing this as a paying job.  The difference is the duration of job as a teacher.  You are pay for your time and expertise.  The money is your fuel to continue doing the great job.  If you enjoy this job and then it is a best job in the world because you experience a great moment and you learn something new everyday.  You even get pay for doing this.  Sacrifice and deserving do have a different feeling but they both end with a big bang.  When you volunteer, you sacrificed.  When you get pay, you deserve. 

The experience of paying and volunteer has the same awesome incentive you will get in the return.  The awesome incentive is you forged a lifetime friendship with students and you get to witness their moment when the “light bulb” goes off.   You also will reap the benefit of hearing their success stories of your students take your teachings to their heart when you and the student meet again.

Aside the paying and volunteer teaching jobs.  We will always be a teacher-student.  When we learn something from someone else, we become a student.  When we share our knowledge, we become a teacher.  It is a giving and receiving society we live in.  We must give first in order to receive.  Always be ready to listen, to open your mind and heart, and to participate in a discourse.  It is an opportunity to learn and to become a better person.  When we rejects, we wasted a precious knowledge that can make world a better place.  It is because we cease the giving and receiving conduit.  Don’t be the person that clogged up the pipeline of knowledge.  Let it flowing free so that we continue to elevate. 

If you want an extraordinary learning experience, be a teacher in any means.  You will become student of your students. 

Happy Learning,
Joe “Lifelong Learner” Vieira

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